My Healthy “Quit List”: Things I’m No Longer Doing to Lose Weight

Because getting healthier shouldn’t require a second full-time job, a spreadsheet, and a permission slip to enjoy a cookie.

I’ve spent a good portion of my life trying to lose weight. I’ve counted calories, counted carbs, counted steps, counted points, and probably counted the number of times I’ve said, “I’ll start again on Monday.”

planner on a table
Photo by cottonbro studio on Pexels.com

If counting burned calories, I’d be a supermodel by now.

Somewhere along the way, I started to realize something: Trying to get healthy had become downright exhausting.

There were rules about what to eat, when to eat, how much to eat, when to exercise, how long to exercise, and apparently, how guilty I was supposed to feel if I didn’t follow all those rules perfectly.

Honestly, I already have a full-time job. I don’t need another one that doesn’t offer vacation time, health insurance, or even a decent retirement plan.

And at this stage of my life, I’ve decided something.

I’m quitting.

No, not quitting my health journey. Not giving up on myself. Not throwing in the towel and moving permanently into the snack aisle at Publix.

I’m quitting the things that have made getting healthy harder than it needs to be.

Welcome to my official Healthy Quit List.

1. I’m Quitting the Monday Morning Restart

You know the routine.

Monday morning arrives, and suddenly it’s time to become a brand-new person.

New meal plan. New exercise schedule. New attitude. New promises.

By Wednesday, life happens.

By Friday, you’re negotiating with a piece of pizza.

By Sunday, you’ve convinced yourself the entire week was a failure, so you might as well start over on Monday.

I’ve been there. More times than I care to admit.

But here’s what I’m finally learning: A healthy lifestyle doesn’t have a reset button because it isn’t a game you can lose.

If Tuesday doesn’t go as planned, Wednesday still counts. Heck, Tuesday still counts!

I’m no longer throwing away six perfectly good days because one of them involved French fries.

And for the record, French fries have never personally wronged me.

2. I’m Quitting the Food Guilt

There was a time when eating something that wasn’t on my imaginary Approved Healthy Foods List could send me straight into a guilt spiral.

A cookie wasn’t just a cookie. It was a failure.

Pizza wasn’t dinner. It was a character flaw.

And dessert? Well, apparently, that required a formal apology to my bathroom scale.

How ridiculous is that?

Food is nourishment, but it’s also family dinners, celebrations, traditions, comfort, and occasionally a really good piece of chocolate cake.

I’m learning that I can make nutritious choices most of the time and still enjoy the foods I love.

One meal doesn’t erase my progress.

One dessert doesn’t define my health.

And I refuse to spend another birthday staring sadly at a slice of cake like it’s an enemy combatant.

I’m choosing balance over punishment.

Besides, life is too short for bad cake. If I’m going to have some, it had better be worth it.

3. I’m Quitting Exercise That Makes My Knees File a Formal Complaint

Once upon a time, I believed exercise had to be intense to count.

Sweating buckets. Pushing harder. Feeling sore the next day.

No pain, no gain, right?

Well, my knees would like to speak to management.

After everything my body has been through, including spinal surgery, I’ve learned that pushing through pain isn’t necessarily determination. Sometimes it’s just a terrible idea.

These days, I’m much more interested in movement that helps my body rather than punishes it.

Maybe that’s time on the elliptical, some gentle strength training, or a walk when the Florida weather isn’t trying to turn me into a rotisserie chicken.

I’m learning that movement doesn’t have to leave me exhausted to be worthwhile.

The best exercise is the kind I can do safely, enjoy, and keep doing.

And if my knees aren’t speaking to me afterward, I consider that a bonus victory.

4. I’m Quitting the Idea That Life Begins at My Goal Weight

This one is a biggie.

How many times have we told ourselves:

“When I lose another 20 pounds, I’ll buy that outfit.”

“When I reach my goal weight, I’ll take more pictures.”

“When I’m thinner, I’ll feel confident.”

“When I finally lose the weight, I’ll start living.”

I’ve spent far too much time treating my current life like a waiting room.

Waiting to feel good enough.

Waiting to wear something pretty.

Waiting to be comfortable in my own skin.

Waiting for a number on the scale to give me permission to enjoy the life I’m already living.

Well, I’m 60 years old, and I’ve decided I’m done waiting.

I want to wear the cute clothes now. Take the pictures now. Go places, try things, laugh loudly, and enjoy the person I am today.

Am I still working toward better health? Absolutely.

Do I still have goals? Of course.

But I’m no longer putting my happiness on layaway until the scale reaches some magical number.

My life is happening right now, not 30 pounds from now.

And I intend to show up for it.

5. I’m Quitting the GLP-1 Opinion Committee

Oh, this one deserves its own meeting.

If you’ve followed my journey, you know that GLP-1 medication has been part of my efforts to improve my health.

And you probably also know that everyone seems to have an opinion about it.

“It’s cheating.”

“You’re taking the easy way out.”

“Why don’t you just eat less and exercise more?”

Well, thank goodness someone finally thought of that last one. All these years, and it never occurred to me!

Here’s the thing.

My health journey has involved more than a number on a scale. It has involved medical challenges, recovery, changes in my body, and a whole lot of effort that nobody else sees.

GLP-1 medication has been one tool in that journey. Not magic. Not a shortcut to a perfect life. And certainly not a substitute for the daily choices I still have to make.

And now, with insurance coverage for weight-loss medication becoming another obstacle, I’m learning that even when you find something that helps, continuing it isn’t always simple or affordable.

I’m still figuring things out. I don’t have every answer, and I certainly haven’t mastered this whole healthy-living business.

But I’ve decided that other people’s opinions don’t get a vote in my medical decisions.

Those conversations belong between me and my healthcare providers.

I’m quitting the need to defend how I’m trying to get healthier.

The GLP-1 Opinion Committee is officially disbanded.

No refreshments will be served.

6. I’m Quitting the Scale as My Only Measure of Success

There was a time when the bathroom scale could determine my mood for the entire day.

Down two pounds? Wonderful! Life is beautiful!

Up half a pound? Clearly, civilization is collapsing.

It’s amazing how much power we can give one little machine sitting on the bathroom floor.

But here’s what I’m learning: The scale only tells part of the story.

It doesn’t tell me that I have more energy.

It doesn’t measure how much stronger I’m becoming.

It doesn’t celebrate improved health markers, better habits, or the fact that I showed up at the gym when I’d rather have stayed home in my pajamas.

It doesn’t recognize the emotional work involved in changing a lifetime of habits.

And it certainly doesn’t understand how exciting it is when a pair of pants fits comfortably without requiring a complicated breathing technique.

I’m still going to weigh myself. I’m still interested in my progress.

But I’m no longer allowing that number to be the sole judge of whether I’m succeeding.

Some of the most important victories in this journey can’t be measured in pounds.

7. I’m Quitting the Need to Be Perfect

This might be the hardest one of all.

Because somewhere deep down, there’s still that little voice that says I should be doing more.

Eating better.

Exercising longer.

Losing faster.

Trying harder.

But I’m beginning to understand that perfection is an impossible goal, especially when you’re balancing work, family, responsibilities, unexpected challenges, and all the other things life likes to throw into the mix.

Some weeks, I’ll do great.

Some weeks, I’ll struggle.

Some weeks, the biggest accomplishment might be making it through without losing my patience, my sense of humor, or my car keys.

And that’s okay.

I’m not looking for a perfect week anymore.

I’m looking for a life I can actually maintain.

One where healthy choices feel like part of living instead of a never-ending list of things I’m doing wrong.

So, What Am I Doing Instead?

I’m choosing consistency over perfection.

I’m choosing movement that respects my body.

I’m choosing meals that nourish me and that I actually enjoy eating.

I’m choosing to recognize progress in all its forms, not just the kind that shows up on the scale.

I’m choosing to give myself some grace when things don’t go according to plan.

And perhaps most importantly, I’m choosing to stop treating my body like a problem that needs to be fixed before I can enjoy my life.

That doesn’t mean I’ve suddenly figured everything out.

I haven’t.

I still get frustrated. I still wish the weight would come off faster. I still have days when I look in the mirror and struggle to see how far I’ve come.

And yes, I still occasionally find myself mentally planning a dramatic Monday morning comeback.

Old habits die hard.

But I’m learning to catch myself, laugh a little, and remember that this journey isn’t supposed to be a punishment.

It’s supposed to be about building a healthier, happier life.

Not someday. Not when I reach a certain weight. Right now.

Your Turn: What’s on Your Healthy Quit List?

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by all the rules surrounding weight loss, maybe it’s time to make a quit list of your own.

What would you stop doing if you gave yourself permission to approach your health with a little more kindness?

Would you quit comparing yourself to other people? Stop feeling guilty about rest days? Finally retire those clothes you’ve been saving for “someday”?

I’d love to hear what’s on your list.

Leave a comment and tell me one thing you’re officially quitting in your own health journey.

Because maybe getting healthier isn’t always about adding more rules, more restrictions, or more pressure.

Maybe sometimes, the healthiest thing we can do is let a few things go.

And if anyone needs me, I’ll be over here enjoying my coffee, making progress at my own pace, and refusing to let a cookie ruin my day.

One day at a time, one healthy choice at a time, and with a whole lot more grace.

Until next time,

Kathy

This Healthy Life with Kathy

The Journey Isn’t Over… But Boy, Has It Taken a Detour!

Because apparently, getting healthy wasn’t challenging enough without insurance companies, financial stress, and life throwing a few extra curveballs.

It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update on my health journey, and I wish I could tell you that everything has been sunshine, rainbows, smaller pants, and fabulous new habits.

But this is real life. And real life doesn’t always cooperate with our plans.

So, grab a cup of coffee, get comfortable, and let’s catch up.

Large DETOUR arrow sign beside city road construction and redirected traffic

The Good (down 30 pounds), the Bad (the economy), and the Insurance Company (EVIL)

When I started this journey, I wasn’t looking for a quick fix or a miracle. I wanted to feel better, move better, and take back some control over my health.

After years of dealing with the physical effects of a serious car accident, spinal surgery, weight gain, and all the lovely surprises that come with getting older, I finally felt like I was moving in the right direction.

With the help of my doctor, a wellness coach, some changes to my eating habits, exercise, and a GLP-1 medication, I began making real progress.

I lost weight. My A1C improved from the prediabetic range into the normal range. I started feeling hopeful about what the future could look like.

And then…

The insurance rug got pulled out from under me.

My insurance coverage for GLP-1 medication for weight loss abruptly came to an end.

Just like that.

No gradual transition. Just the realization that a medication that had been helping me improve my health was suddenly going to become a significant financial burden if I wanted to continue.

Now, I understand that insurance companies have policies, coverage restrictions, and financial considerations. I understand that GLP-1 medications are expensive and that coverage for weight management is often treated differently from coverage for other medical conditions.

But understanding the business side of something doesn’t make it any less frustrating when you’re the person whose health is affected.

What bothers me most is that obesity is a chronic medical condition. Improving your weight can improve your blood sugar, mobility, cardiovascular health, and overall quality of life.

So why does it sometimes feel like we’re being encouraged to get healthier, only to have the tools that are helping us taken away?

It’s a question I haven’t found a satisfying answer to.

When Getting Healthy Becomes a Financial Decision

Here’s something this experience has taught me that I don’t think I fully appreciated before.

Sometimes people aren’t choosing to neglect their health. They’re choosing to survive financially.

With the current cost of groceries, housing, insurance, utilities, and just about everything else, even families with steady incomes are having to rethink their priorities.

And when a medication costs hundreds of dollars a month without insurance coverage, that decision becomes painfully real.

Do you continue paying for something that’s helping improve your health?

Or do you make sure the mortgage gets paid, the lights stay on, and there’s food in the refrigerator?

I used to think that if someone truly wanted to improve their health, they’d find a way.

Now I understand that sometimes the desire is there, the effort is there, and the commitment is there.

The money simply isn’t.

And that’s heartbreaking.

Nobody should have to feel like improving their health is a luxury reserved for people who can afford it.

I’m fortunate in many ways, and I recognize that. But this experience has given me a much deeper appreciation for the impossible financial decisions people make every single day.

The Search for an Affordable Backup Plan

So, where does that leave me?

Researching. Asking questions. Looking into options. Trying to figure out how to continue something that has become incredibly important to me without putting an unreasonable strain on our household finances.

I’m exploring affordable, medically appropriate ways to continue treatment, while also reminding myself that medication is only one piece of the puzzle.

There’s still nutrition. Movement. Strength training. Hydration. Sleep. Managing stress.

All those things we know we’re supposed to do but sometimes struggle to fit into our lives.

And while I’m working on those things, I also refuse to pretend that losing access to a helpful medication is no big deal.

It is a big deal.

Especially when you’ve finally started seeing improvements after years of struggling.

Have I Been Successful? Well…

Here’s where I’m going to be completely transparent.

I have NOT been successful… yet.

Not in finding an affordable FDA-approved solution that allows me to continue this journey the way I had hoped.

And not in reaching all the health and weight-loss goals I’ve set for myself.

There. I said it.

No pretty little bow. No inspirational story about how I overcame every obstacle and emerged victorious in a smaller pair of jeans.

Not yet, anyway.

But here’s what I have done.

I’ve learned more about my body. I’ve made healthier food choices. I’ve become more aware of how important movement is, even when my knees or back have other opinions.

I’ve celebrated improvements that don’t show up on a bathroom scale.

I’ve learned that progress isn’t always measured in pounds.

And perhaps most importantly, I’ve learned that a setback doesn’t erase the work I’ve already done.

At 60, I’m also learning that patience is apparently a virtue I was supposed to develop somewhere along the way.

Still working on that one.

Some days I’m motivated and ready to conquer the world.

Other days, I’d prefer to sit on the couch with my crochet project and contemplate why vegetables can’t taste like chocolate cake.

Balance, right?

Meanwhile, Life Hasn’t Exactly Been Quiet

As if navigating health insurance and weight-loss challenges weren’t enough, I’ve also been dealing with something that has consumed a tremendous amount of my emotional energy over the past year and a half.

My dad’s estate.

After losing my father in May 2025, I took on the responsibility of serving as executrix of his estate in New Jersey.

What I thought would be a difficult but relatively straightforward process turned into a crash course in real estate, legal paperwork, creditors, family complications, and the wonderful world of probate.

Let’s just say I’ve learned more about estate administration than I ever wanted to know.

There have been moments of frustration, exhaustion, and sadness. There have been difficult decisions and situations that tested my patience in ways I didn’t know were possible.

But the good news?

We’re finally getting close to the finish line.

There are still some loose ends to tie up, but I can finally see a point when this chapter of my life may be behind me.

And honestly, I think closing the estate will be about more than finishing paperwork.

It will be about finally having the emotional space to grieve my dad without constantly having another legal or financial issue to resolve.

It will be about letting go of a responsibility I’ve carried for a long time.

And maybe, just maybe, having a little more energy to focus on myself again.

Because grief, stress, and emotional exhaustion don’t exactly make healthy living easier.

I’m Not Starting Over. I’m Continuing.

One thing I’ve decided is that I’m not going to call this a failure.

I’ve had setbacks. I’ve been frustrated. I’ve been disappointed.

I’ve had moments when I wondered whether all the effort was worth it.

But I’m still here.

Still trying.

Still learning.

Still figuring out what works for me.

And that matters.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life chasing a number on the scale or feeling guilty about every imperfect choice.

I want to be healthier.

I want to be stronger.

I want to have the energy to enjoy retirement when (and if) that day finally comes, travel with my husband, explore new places, and spend time doing the things I love.

I want to walk farther without discomfort, feel more confident, and enjoy the everyday freedoms that come with better health.

And yes, I’d still like to buy some cute clothes in a smaller size.

I’m human, after all.

The Next Chapter: Hope, Humor, and a Little Stubbornness

As I look toward the end of 2026 and the beginning of another year, I’m trying to approach this journey with a different mindset.

Less pressure. More consistency.

Less guilt. More grace.

Less worrying about how quickly things are happening. More appreciation for the fact that I’m still moving forward.

I’m going to keep looking for affordable options to support my health. I’m going to continue working with my healthcare providers. I’m going to keep making changes that I can realistically maintain.

And I’m going to remind myself that I don’t have to do everything perfectly to make progress.

Maybe this journey is taking longer than I expected.

Maybe the road has more potholes than I planned for.

And maybe the GPS keeps announcing, “Recalculating route.”

But that doesn’t mean I’ve lost my way.

It just means I’m taking the scenic route.

And knowing me, I’ll probably stop along the way to buy yarn.

One Last Thought…

If you’re struggling with your own health journey, especially because of financial barriers, please know that I understand a little more now than I did before.

It’s easy for people to say, “Just eat better,” “Just exercise more,” or “If you want it badly enough, you’ll find a way.”

But life is rarely that simple.

Health is complicated. Money is complicated. Aging is complicated.

And sometimes, just getting through the week while trying to make one or two better choices is an accomplishment worth celebrating.

So no, I haven’t figured it all out.

I have NOT been successful… yet.

But that little three-letter word is doing a lot of heavy lifting.

YET.

Because I’m not finished.

And neither is my story.

Until next time, keep moving, keep laughing, and remember that progress doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful.

— Kathy

This Healthy Life with Kathy

Still a work in progress. Still hopeful. Still slightly sarcastic.

Where were you?

Where were you 25 years ago when the first plane hit the World Trade Center? That is the question of the day. It is hard to imagine that there are adults who were not alive when this horrible thing happened. To those who were here and remember that day, where were you?

I was sitting at my recently relocated desk at the small tech company I worked for. I was the only one sitting in this newly set up part of the office. I was working when one of my coworkers came in and told me that a plane flew into the World Trade Center. While we tried to find out more information, I remembered that I had set up travel for our boss, Jay, to fly to California that morning. I quickly looked up the flight number as the news was telling us the flight number of the plane the hit the North Tower. Flight 11 – the plane that he was supposed to be on. Of course, we couldn’t get ahold of him. Cell phones were not working. Needless to say, everyone in the office was in shock. I don’t remember the timing but we eventually heard from Jay. He had switched his flight the night before and was NOT on Flight 11. While we were relieved, we were all still a mess as we watched the next plane hit the South Tower. The management of this small office made the decision to close and send us all home to our families.

As I drove from Stanhope, NJ to Vernon, NJ, I noticed the lack of cars on the road and the absence of planes in the sky. It was surreal. Being so close to Newark and the other NY area airports, planes were always in the sky. It was eerily quiet. When I got home, I sat and watched this horrible day unfold with my family.

The next day, the world was different. Remember how everyone came together? It didn’t matter if you were Democrat or Republican, white or black, gay or straight – we were all there for each other in our pain. Where did that go? What has happened to that? Why are we always at each other’s throats now? Why has anger and hatred taken over where kindness and compassion grew?

I remember how small communities in Canada took in our stranded countrymen when all air traffic was shut down. As our closest ally, they showed kindness and compassion to our citizens who were stranded. Now the our government is in a trade spat with their government. How did we go from kindness and compassion to this???

So, today, in memory of those lost that day – from passengers, office workers, and first responders – I will choose kindness.

September

Today is September 1st. I haven’t given an update on my GLP-1 journey in a while. There are several reasons for that.

The most annoying reason I’ve been so quiet is I’ve lost insurance coverage for the GLP-1 medication. My insurance company decided that they were no longer going to cover GLP-1s unless you are diabetic starting October 1st. So, those who are not diabetic are on their own. I’ve been in a bit of a funk since I found out. I started thinking “What does it matter if I do or don’t have enough protein and fiber? In a little over a month, I’m either going to have to pay an arm and a leg to be healthy or give up the GLP-1.” It really has affected my motivation. I’ve been at the same weight for the past three weeks. I can’t seem to get the scale to budge. I wish I had gone up in my dosage at my last visit. I have an appointment with the doctor next week and I hope he will up my prescription and get me three months worth again.

I’m down 29 pounds since starting this GLP-1 journey. I’m down 51 pounds since I started working on my health. I don’t know what I’m going to do if this is the end of my GLP-1 journey. I’m sad. I’m mad.

The Warehouse: A short fiction story (I hope)

Tracy had to walk to work…again.

At 4:30 a.m., she dragged herself out of bed, ate a quick breakfast of one scrambled egg and a cup of cold coffee, got dressed, and prepared for the long walk to work.

Work started at 7:00 a.m., so if she left the house by 6:00, she would probably make it on time.

Probably.

Unless, of course, the traffic lights weren’t working again.

Then she would have to stand at the intersection waiting for a break in traffic before running across and taking her chances.

So many things had stopped working since the new tax reform law went into effect.

The politicians had promised that eliminating property taxes would put money back into people’s pockets. What they hadn’t talked quite as much about was what would happen when that money stopped flowing into the communities that depended on it.

Maintenance crews disappeared.

Equipment broke and stayed broken.

Traffic signals failed.

Roads deteriorated.

Government buildings closed.

There was no money to replace broken equipment and, increasingly, no one left to maintain what still worked.

Tracy wasn’t the only one walking.

Ever since the school buses stopped running, the children walked too.

When funding collapsed, all of the county’s public schools had been consolidated into one location. Some children now walked miles just to get an education.

Calling it a “school” was generous.

It was actually a giant warehouse.

There were no classrooms.

No walls separating one grade from another.

No air conditioning.

And certainly no technology.

All of the county’s remaining public school students were taught by twenty-one volunteer teachers.

Tracy was one of them.

There weren’t many college-educated teachers anymore.

At least, none who were getting paid to teach.

Tracy had an MLS—a Master of Library Science degree—which had become fairly useless once all of the public libraries closed. Years earlier, she had spent her days helping people find books, research information, use computers, and learn.

Now she taught reading.

To everyone.

First grade through twelfth grade.

All in the same enormous room.

At the same time.

You learned to improvise.

By some miracle, the traffic lights were working that morning, and there hadn’t been any civil unrest along her route.

It was going to be a good day.

Tracy arrived at the warehouse at 6:50 a.m., giving her a few minutes to help set up breakfast before the students arrived.

Today’s donated breakfast was a large vat of porridge, hard-boiled eggs, and unsweetened powdered juice.

It wasn’t much, but it was food.

For some of the children, it would be the first thing they had eaten since yesterday’s school lunch.

Eric, the history and physical education teacher, arrived and helped Tracy set out the food.

He was a nice guy, but he was having a hard time teaching history without books.

They had managed to salvage a few books when the public libraries closed, but there weren’t nearly enough for all of the students. Most lessons were now taught from memory.

History had become particularly difficult.

Years of conspiracy theories and misinformation had convinced some of the students—and many of their parents—that almost anything could be true if enough people repeated it.

Eric could tell them what had happened.

Proving it was another matter.

There were no databases to search.

No library archives.

No textbooks for every student.

No reliable internet connection.

Just Eric, a handful of old books, and whatever knowledge he could remember.

Math was even worse.

There wasn’t anyone to teach it.

Adults who were good at mathematics, engineering, science, or technology were quickly recruited by the large private conglomerates.

They made big bucks.

They lived in communities with private schools, private security, private garbage collection, private recreation facilities, and well-maintained roads.

Their children didn’t attend Tracy’s warehouse school.

The community had helped educate many of those adults when they were children.

Now almost none of their money came back to support the community that had educated them.

That was the strange thing about the new system.

Public services had disappeared.

The need for those services hadn’t.

They had simply become things you purchased individually—if you could afford them.

As the students trickled in, Tracy noticed there were fewer of them again.

There seemed to be fewer every day.

Families who could afford it sent their children to private schools.

Everyone else relied on the warehouse.

But even that was changing.

Everything had become so expensive that struggling families were beginning to pull their older children out of school and send them to work.

Education had become a luxury.

For many families, the warehouse school served another important purpose: it provided a safe place for their younger children while the adults worked.

That allowed parents to take whatever jobs they could find.

But once a child was old enough to earn money, work usually won.

Some went to the fields.

Others cleaned houses, watched children, cared for elderly people, or performed household chores for families wealthy enough to hire help.

Each week, another chair at the warehouse was empty.

Then another.

And another.

Eventually, Tracy stopped asking where everyone had gone.

She usually knew.

The school day ended at 11:30 a.m.

Not because anyone believed four and a half hours was enough time to educate a child.

By noon, the Florida sun had heated the metal warehouse to an unbearable temperature.

There was no air conditioning, and keeping hundreds of children inside much longer would be dangerous.

Before sending them home, the volunteers handed each child a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

Nobody protested the peanut butter anymore.

Years ago, there had been arguments about allergies, dietary preferences, nutrition, sugar, processed food, and what schools should or shouldn’t serve.

Those arguments disappeared around the same time the funding did.

When peanut butter and jelly became one of the only foods regularly available for free, people stopped complaining about it.

Funny how quickly priorities changed.

The children ate their sandwiches and began their long walks home.

Tracy and the other volunteers straightened the folding tables, swept the warehouse floor, and put away the remaining food.

Then Tracy picked up her bag.

It was time to walk home.

Again.

Tracy’s route home takes her past what used to be her favorite park. They used to hold concerts in the gazebo, and kids would play on the playground. The gazebo is now part of the tent camp for those who lost their housing when things went south. The playground was torn down months ago and sold for scrap.

It is a hot day in September, with “feels like” temperatures around 110 degrees Fahrenheit, and the trash piles around town have started to reek. With no taxes being collected, regular trash pickup stopped. Private companies will still collect it, of course, but only if you can afford their monthly fee. Most people in Tracy’s neighborhood cannot.

Flies and rats have become as common as squirrels once were. Tracy is sure they are in for an outbreak of cholera, typhoid, dysentery, or something else she remembers reading about in history books. Unfortunately, the county health department closed two years ago, so there probably wouldn’t be anyone left to officially declare an outbreak anyway.

All of a sudden, Tracy hears screaming.

“Help! Stop! You’re hurting me!”

It sounds like one of the students from her school.

She follows the sound and finds a young ten-year-old girl named Ettany being dragged down the street by a man three times her age.

“Stop! What are you doing to her? She’s just a kid!” Tracy yells.

The man turns around and approaches her.

“Mind ya business. She gonna fetch me a pretty penny tonight. Got some fellers lookin’ fer a wife, and she’s gonna have herself a new life servin’ her new man.”

He pulls out a knife and keeps dragging Ettany away.

Tracy freezes.

She wants desperately to help, but she knows she cannot overpower him. She is an undernourished, exhausted woman who has been surviving on donated food for months. If she attacks him, there could be two victims instead of one.

So she does the only thing she can think of.

She runs for help.

Her first instinct is to call 911.

She reaches into her pocket and then remembers.

There is no 911 anymore.

The county couldn’t afford enough dispatchers, police officers, firefighters, or paramedics to maintain the system. Emergency services are now provided primarily through subscription companies. People with money pay for private security and ambulance plans.

People like Ettany don’t have plans.

Tracy runs toward what used to be Town Hall.

The building is locked.

A handwritten sign is taped to the front door:

**COUNCIL HOURS**

**TUESDAY & THURSDAY**

**10:00 A.M. – 2:00 P.M.**

**VOLUNTEERS NEEDED**

It is Monday.

Tracy pounds on the door anyway.

“HELP! PLEASE! SOMEBODY HELP!”

Eventually, an elderly man appears from around the side of the building. Tracy recognizes him as Mr. Walters, a former accountant who now serves on the volunteer council.

“What happened?”

“A man took Ettany! One of my students. She’s ten years old!”

“Did you call security?”

“There is no security!”

Mr. Walters looks down.

They both know this.

The town had four police officers left when the department finally closed. Two went to work for a private security company. One moved away. The fourth now guards the entrance to one of the wealthy communities on the other side of the county.

“What about the sheriff?” Tracy asks.

“County doesn’t have enough deputies. They’re handling violent crimes only.”

“This **is** a violent crime!”

“I know.”

“Then do something!”

“With what, Tracy?”

That stops her.

Mr. Walters isn’t being cruel.

He’s asking a literal question.

With what?

There are no police cars.

No investigators.

No juvenile services.

No functioning local court.

No child protective services.

Even if they find Ettany, who will protect her afterward?

Tracy suddenly understands something she wishes she didn’t.

Laws only mean something when a society has the institutions necessary to enforce them.

The council can declare that ten-year-old girls cannot be sold into marriage.

They can write it on a piece of paper.

They can vote unanimously.

But a law without police, courts, prosecutors, social workers, judges, schools, and functioning government is just a piece of paper.

“I’ll find her myself,” Tracy says.

Mr. Walters looks at her sadly.

“And then what?”

Tracy doesn’t answer.

—

She finally reaches home shortly before 2:00 p.m.

Her shirt is soaked with sweat.

The electricity is off again.

The private utility company has been rationing power during peak hours because several transformers need replacement. The company says it isn’t profitable to replace equipment in neighborhoods where too many customers cannot afford their bills.

Tracy fills a glass from the kitchen faucet.

The water comes out brown.

She lets it run.

Still brown.

A boil-water notice might have been issued, but the local water department no longer has enough employees to deliver notices door to door. The town website hasn’t worked in six months.

She pours the water back into the sink.

Dinner will probably be another egg.

She sits on her porch and looks down the street.

The pavement is cracked. Weeds grow through the sidewalks. A tree that fell during last month’s tropical storm still blocks half the road.

Hurricane season isn’t over yet.

Nobody talks about that.

The drainage canals haven’t been cleared this year. Several stormwater pumps are broken. The emergency management office closed last spring.

If a major hurricane comes, Tracy has no idea what they will do.

There used to be shelters.

There used to be buses to take elderly residents to safety.

There used to be emergency workers who checked on people afterward.

There used to be people whose entire job was to think about these things before something terrible happened.

Tracy hadn’t known their names.

Most people hadn’t.

They simply expected them to be there.

—

That evening, her neighbor Joe walks over carrying two warm cans of soda.

“Want one?”

“Sure.”

It tastes terrible.

She drinks it anyway.

Joe sits beside her.

“Remember when everybody complained about property taxes?” he asks.

Tracy laughs.

It isn’t really funny, but she laughs.

“Oh, yeah.”

“My bill was almost three thousand dollars that last year.”

“I remember mine.”

“I was furious.”

“Everybody was.”

Joe takes another drink.

“When they said they were eliminating property taxes, I thought I’d have three thousand extra dollars every year.”

“So did everybody else.”

“Turns out I spend more than that now.”

Tracy looks at him.

“Security fee?”

“Yep. Private trash pickup. Road assessment. Fire subscription. Water surcharge. Emergency medical membership. And my granddaughter’s school wanted twelve thousand dollars a year.”

“Could you pay it?”

“Nope.”

They sit quietly.

“My homeowner’s insurance dropped me too,” Joe continues. “Said there isn’t adequate fire protection in the area anymore.”

Tracy shakes her head.

Three thousand dollars suddenly doesn’t sound like very much.

—

The next morning, Tracy wakes at 4:30.

One scrambled egg.

Cold coffee.

Another walk to work.

When she reaches the intersection, the traffic lights are out again.

Cars fly through from every direction.

Nobody stops.

Nobody directs traffic.

Tracy waits almost ten minutes before she sees an opening and runs.

She makes it across.

Barely.

At the warehouse school, Eric is already setting out breakfast.

“Any word about Ettany?” he asks.

Tracy shakes her head.

“No.”

Neither of them says anything for a while.

Then the children begin arriving.

Thirty-seven today.

There had been forty-three yesterday.

Sixty-two at the beginning of the month.

More than a hundred last year.

Tracy looks at the children sitting at folding tables in the enormous warehouse.

Some are six years old.

Some are seventeen.

A little boy raises his hand.

“Miss Tracy?”

“Yes, sweetheart?”

“My grandma says everything used to be better.”

A few of the older students laugh.

Tracy smiles.

“Not everything.”

“Did you really have libraries?”

“Yes.”

“With books you could take home?”

“Thousands of them.”

“For free?”

“For everyone.”

His eyes get wide.

“And schools had air conditioning?”

“Yes.”

“And buses picked kids up?”

“Yes.”

Another child joins in.

“My mom says firefighters used to come if your house caught on fire even if you didn’t pay them.”

“They did.”

“And ambulances too?”

“Yes.”

“And people picked up everybody’s garbage?”

“Yes.”

The little boy thinks about this.

“Who paid for all that?”

Tracy looks around the warehouse.

For the first time that morning, the room is completely silent.

She walks over to the battered whiteboard.

She picks up the last working black marker.

At the top she writes one word:

**TAXES**

The children groan.

Tracy laughs.

“I know. Nobody likes them.”

She looks around the room.

“But today we’re going to learn something important.”

She writes another word beneath it:

**COMMUNITY**

“Taxes weren’t money that disappeared,” she says. “They were money we pooled together to pay for things that were too big for most of us to buy by ourselves.”

She starts writing.

**Schools.**

**Roads.**

**Libraries.**

**Police.**

**Firefighters.**

**Ambulances.**

**Parks.**

**Clean water.**

**Courts.**

**Trash collection.**

**Emergency management.**

**Public health.**

The children stare at the board.

One of the older students raises his hand.

“So why did they get rid of them?”

Tracy pauses.

She remembers the rallies.

The signs.

The promises.

**KEEP YOUR MONEY.**

**END PROPERTY TAXES.**

**GOVERNMENT DOESN’T NEED YOUR MONEY.**

She remembers how simple it sounded.

How wonderful it sounded.

Keep your own money.

Who wouldn’t want that?

“Because people were angry about how much they were paying,” Tracy finally says. “And some people convinced them that we could stop paying for government without giving up the things government provided.”

“That’s stupid,” someone says from the back.

Normally Tracy would correct the language.

Today she doesn’t.

Instead, she turns back toward the whiteboard.

“Maybe,” she says. “But there’s another lesson in it.”

She writes:

**Nothing is free.**

“If we want roads, somebody has to build them. If we want schools, somebody has to teach in them. If we want firefighters, somebody has to pay them. If we want clean water, somebody has to test it. If we want laws protecting children, somebody has to enforce them.”

She thinks about Ettany.

Her voice catches.

“And when we decide we don’t want to pay for those things anymore, they don’t magically become free.”

She underlines the words **Nothing is free.**

“They disappear.”

A little girl in the front raises her hand.

“Miss Tracy?”

“Yes?”

“Can we get everything back?”

Tracy looks at the children.

She wants to tell them yes.

She wants to tell them that adults will fix everything.

But adults created this mess.

“I don’t know,” she says.

Then she looks at the battered books stacked against the warehouse wall.

“But I know where we start.”

She hands the little girl a book.

“We learn.”

Outside, the Florida sun continues climbing.

The traffic light at the intersection goes dark again.

Trash blows across what used to be a soccer field.

And thirty-seven children pull their chairs closer to Tracy.

For the first time in a very long time, nobody complains about paying attention.

That moment…

Today a photo came up in the memories on my phone and it made me gasp. It was a picture from the ribbon cutting at the opening of the Punta Gorda Charlotte Library, where I worked. It was dated September 6, 2019. Almost seven years ago. Here is the photo that took my breath away.

This was me at my heaviest. I never want to go back to that. I was always in pain. I felt horrible and I had to go to a tent maker to buy clothing.

I’m going to leave this here to remind me how far I have come.

Here is a comparison post I did today.

Thanks for reading.

How am I doing? I’m not sure.

Trying to manifest a healthier life.

How is everyone doing?

As for me… I’m still plugging away on this journey to a healthier life. Like every journey, it has its ups and downs. Recently, I hit a plateau that lasted about a week and a half. I know that’s not very long, but when you’re working hard every day, it can feel like forever!

Then came Friday night.

I decided I was going to have a piece of Publix cake. Not just any cake—white cake with white icing. If you’ve ever had it, you know it’s heavenly. It’s tied with their carrot cake as my all-time favorite.

Every. Single. Bite. Was. Amazing.

My stomach, however, had a very different review.

Since increasing my GLP-1 dose, this was the first time I’d indulged in cake, and let’s just say my body made it crystal clear that it preferred healthier choices. I spent the next three days feeling sick as a dog with digestive issues and barely eating.

The silver lining? By the time I stepped on the scale Sunday evening, I had finally broken through my plateau and was down 3 pounds!

Now, before anyone starts adding “Publix cake” to their weight-loss plan… don’t. 😂 I can’t recommend my method. It was definitely a one-time experiment that I have no desire to repeat.

But here’s the lesson I’m taking from it: plateaus happen. They’re frustrating, they’re discouraging, and they can make you question whether all your hard work is paying off. The important thing is not to give up. Sometimes your body is just taking a little extra time before it decides to cooperate.

One thing I do need to focus on now is getting back to the gym. Between the daily thunderstorms, we haven’t been able to get to the pool, and I’ve really missed that extra activity. I think life has finally calmed down a bit, which means it’s time to get back on the elliptical. My plan is to be there tomorrow—or Saturday at the latest!

This journey has taught me that perfection isn’t the goal—progress is. There will be plateaus. There will be cake. There will be days when life gets in the way. What matters most is getting back up, making the next healthy choice, and continuing to move forward.

Here’s to celebrating the victories, learning from the setbacks, laughing at ourselves once in a while, and never giving up. We’ve got this! ❤️

Thanks for reading!

Staying Positive

Yesterday, I went to see my doctor for my monthly checkin for the weightloss program I am doing. I was dreading it because I’ve had a few rough weeks. I had some kind of bug one week that kept me in bed for a few days. Then my lower back was bothering me. During this time, I was under a lot of stress. (Hint— I am and always have been a stress eater). Because of all of these reasons, I thought I was going to GAIN this past month.

Well, I didn’t gain. I actually lost a pound. I am down 19 pounds since I started my GLP-1 journey. I am down 25.2 pounds since December 17, 2025. I am down 46.2 pounds since 2022. While the GLP-1 helps in so many ways, I still have to put in the work. Eating healthier and moving more. I have to strength train to keep and increase my muscle mass. It is not a free ticket.

I am hoping the the cause of my stress (being Executrix of my father’s estate) will soon be completed and things can return to normal. I am tired of doing 1 – 3 hours of paperwork after I get home from an 8 hour workday.

So, when I get this estate closed and I no longer have to do this paperwork every night, I will be much less stressed and way happier.

How have you coped with stress? Do you have any experience being and Executor or Executrix for your parent’s estate? Any tips or tricks? Did you have to declare the estate insolvent, like I have too? How was your family dynamics during this time?

Please, I would love to hear from other’s who have gone through this and have helpful tips. Here are some of mine:

  • Talk with your parents about what they have put in place for after they die. This doesn’t have to be a “what am I going to get out of this” type of question. It is more a “Where do you keep your important papers that we will need when you do pass?” type of question.
  • Prepare your own “When I’m gone” file to make it easier on your family.
  • If you are named the Executor/Executrix, remember that you do have the option to say no. It is NOT a fun experience, so keep that in mind. If you do take the job, make sure to do your research. Know that you may not only end up with nothing, it may COST you money to handle the estate. (I am out about $1750 with no chance of reimbursement). Stand strong during family conflicts. Do not let yourself be manipulated. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!
  • If you decide to hire an estate/probate lawyer, be aware that, if the estate looks like it is going to come up insolvent, they will probably stop answering your emails and phone calls because they know that they will not get any money.
  • Try, try, TRY to keep your sense of humor. It helps a lot.

Tnanks for reading!

What would be your last meal?

Have you ever thought about what you would choose as your last meal? Mike and I have started watching The Mythical Kitchen on YouTube. One of their things is inviting celebrities to eat their last meal. We recently watched the episode with Chef Jose Andres. I have been a big fan of this chef ever since he and his World Central Kitchen came to Charlotte County and fed those of us dealing with Hurricane Ian in 2022. Here is the link to his video: https://youtu.be/XM6fwb_51hc?si=zXaEIMUe7cLPA-oJ

If you are in a giving mood, please make a donation to World Central Kitchen. They are a wonderful organization.

I started thinking about what I would choose if I were ever invited to be on an episode.t I am both happy and horrified to report that two of my chosen items would include hot dogs. A lot of my choices are foods I ate as a child.

My first request would be a fried clam strip on a roll. We used to get these at shacks in New England when we were camping during the Summer. They were delicious.

Who remembers Howard Johnson’s? Good old Ho Jo’s. This is another place our parents used to take us when we were on vacation. Every time we would go to Ho Jo’s, I would order the beans and weenies with brown bread.

Bowl of baked beans with sausage pieces and a slice of rye bread with butter on a diner table
Beans and weenies. The bread is not correct, but it is close enough.
Brown bread with raisins from a can

My other favorite food is one my Mom used to make for us – hot dog loaf. Mom would get a nice big loaf of Italian bread She would cut slices in it but not all the way through She would then cut the hot dogs in half and place them sticking out of the sides of the slices She made a sauce of ketchup, mustard, and pickle relish and spread it on the hot dogs and place some shreaded cheese on it Then it would go in the oven for a while Simple yet delicious. I wish I had a photo of one so you could see how yummy it looks.

Loaf of bread stuffed with hot dogs topped with melted cheese, mustard, and ketchup on a wooden cutting board
A rustic loaf filled with hot dogs, melted cheese, mustard and ketchup. This is a close representation of my Mom’s hot dog loaf.

And now it is time for some of the most delicious food I’ve had…all at Disney Springs in Orlando, FL.

  1. Morimoto, Asia – The peking duck. It is a meal that Mike and I shared. The duck was lucious. It was an experience that I think of often.
  2. STK – Brussels Sprouts! Yes, I said brussel sprouts. Those stinky little baby cabbages have never been my favorite. However, the way that STK prepared these made them cravable – sliced thin, fried crispy, crispy bacon, raspberry vinaigrette. I have not found anything like them anywhere.
  3. Terralina, Crafted Italian – The food is good here, but what I would eat every day, if I could, is their bread and roasted garlic. The basket of bread comes with a roasted head of garlic. Take a piece of bread, squeeze a roasted garlic clove onto it and spread. The most delicious explosion of flavor I’ve ever eaten and it’s only bread, garlic and olive oil!

I have a Univeral CityWalk place to mention as well. VIVO Italian Kitchen, located at the CityWalk is worth a visit. The food was delicious, but I would request the Venetian Mule cocktail during my last meal. It is made with New Amsterdam vodka, Aperol, lime juice, and ginger beer. Light and refreshing, it is one of my top 5 favorite cocktails.

Copper mug cocktail with lime slice, mint leaves, rosemary sprig, and blackberry garnish
A refreshing copper mug cocktail garnished with lime, mint, rosemary, and blackberry at Vivo Italian Kitchen

I would also ask for a crunchy peanut butter and grape jelly sandwich on Wonder Bread.

So, what would be in your chosen last meal?

Thanks for reading.

Random thoughts…

I couldn’t decide what I wanted to write about today so I decided to share some random thoughts.

  • Happy Father’s Day – I don’t know how to celebrate this year. Last year was the first Father’s Day after my dad passed. There was a lot more sadness last year. This year I am a bit more introspective. I have been thinking more about the good times we had with my dad.
  • Tiny ducks – The Jeep duck craze has spread into every kind of little plastic figure you can think of, and people are hiding them all over. You never know what you will find. I have quite a collection on my desk at work. It is one of those things that bring a smile to your face when you find one. I have found mushrooms, gnomes, owls, many different ducks, a seal, and many more.
  • It is HOT – It has been so hot in Florida this week. The A/C at the house can’t keep up. When it gets uncomfortable, it is time to go for a ride and enjoy the car’s A/C.
  • I still enjoy my job. It is NOT boring. At the end of the day I feel like I’ve accomplished something. 99.9% of my coworkers are 100% awesome.
  • I found a craft group to join. Next Saturday will be the first day I participate. I honestly can’t wait. I went to a small crafting program last weekend all by myself and had a ball.
  • Only 5 months and 9 days left till Hurricane Season is over.
  • I don’t have as many random thoughts in my head as I thought.

Thanks for reading my ramblings.