This beautiful life – This {______

Clearing the Garden

My mind is a garden, tender and wide,
where bright blooms flourish when given the sky.
But shadows creep in, with thorn and with weed,
draining the roots of the light that I need.

I’ve learned to be gentle, yet firm with my ground,
to pull up the voices that drag spirits down.
The ones who bring poison, resentment, and spite,
I lay at the gate, and I turn toward the light.

For peace is a harvest, not gathered by chance,
but grown when we guard what deserves to advance.
In silence and sunlight, the soul can repair—
once freed from the weight of a toxic despair.

So I tend to my garden with patience and care,
inviting in kindness, refusing what tears.
For preserving my spirit means learning to see:
Not all who approach are meant to grow with me.

*** I haven’t been online much, unless I’ve been working on things. I haven’t been in the mood or in the correct space to share my thoughts and feelings. The past 4 months have been a challenge and continue to wear me down. However, I have decided to weed my garden of negativity and poison, and plant beauty, kindness, and love in their place.

Grief sucks. Grief brings out the best and the worst in us. I choose to turn my grief into positive memories. It will take a while, but I’m determined to remember to be kind and not let other’s actions and words ruin my happy memories.

Miss you Mom and Dad.

For Mom – the little yellow notebook queen

In the hush of dawn, where the robins sing,

I hear her hum—a quiet, joyful thing.

A thread of song spun from kitchen light,

She made the world feel soft, and right.

She walked with wonder through the trees,

Studied deer tracks, whispered to the breeze.

A cardinal perched, she’d smile and say,

“Nature’s blessing us again today.”

She loved her Richard, hand in hand,

Built a life both strong and grand.

Her children grown, with love she’d sew

New stitches into hearts she’d know.

Grandkids, great-grandkids—each one dear,

She held them close, kept memories near.

And in her bag, so oft unseen,

That little yellow notebook queen

Would jot a thought, a joke, a list—

The smallest details never missed.

She knitted warmth, she stitched delight,

With tiny chairs tucked in just right.

A dollhouse world within her care,

Where love was nestled everywhere.

And oh, the songs! The kitchen tunes—

About lost keys and spoons and moons.

I laugh, remembering the silly flair—

A melody made from thinning hair.

Camping nights with stars above,

We farted loud, then laughed with love.

A bond unique, just hers and mine,

Our secret joy, our shared sunshine.

I miss her voice, her gentle hands,

The way she’d always understand.

But in the birdcall, breeze, and sky,

She’s with me still—and nearby.

So here’s to her, forever seen—

My heart’s own yellow notebook queen.

–Today is my Mom’s birthday. I miss her!

Frugal Fun Friday – How to have a good time without breaking the bank

Embracing Frugal Fun: Creative Ways to Enjoy Life on a Budget

In a world where entertainment often comes with a hefty price tag, finding joy in simple pleasures can be both liberating and rewarding. Embracing frugal fun isn’t just about saving money – it’s about discovering creative ways to enjoy life without breaking the bank. Join me as we explore the art of frugal fun and uncover how you can make the most of every moment without spending a fortune.

Why Embrace Frugal Fun?

Before diving into the practical tips, let’s reflect on why embracing frugal fun is worth it. Living within your means not only reduces financial stress but also fosters a mindset of gratitude and resourcefulness. It encourages us to prioritize experiences over material possessions, connect more deeply with loved ones, and appreciate the simple pleasures that life has to offer.

Creative Ways to Enjoy Frugal Fun:

Picnic in the Park: Pack a homemade lunch, grab a blanket, and head to your local park for a relaxing picnic. Enjoy the fresh air, soak in the natural surroundings, and unwind without spending a dime.
Explore Nature Trails: Lace up your sneakers and explore nearby hiking or biking trails. Nature offers a wealth of beauty and serenity, providing the perfect backdrop for outdoor adventures.
Host a Movie Night at Home: Skip the expensive movie tickets and popcorn. Instead, host a cozy movie night at home with friends or family. Pop some popcorn, dim the lights, and enjoy a film marathon from the comfort of your own couch.
Attend Community Events: Keep an eye out for free or low-cost community events such as festivals, concerts in the park, or art exhibitions. These events often showcase local talent and provide opportunities to connect with your community.
DIY Arts and Crafts: Tap into your creative side with DIY arts and crafts projects. Use materials you already have at home to create handmade gifts, home décor, or personalized keepsakes.
Visit Local Museums or Libraries: Many museums offer free admission days or discounts. Take advantage of these opportunities to explore art, history, and culture without breaking your budget. Libraries also often host free events, workshops, and book clubs.
Cook Together: Plan a themed cooking night with friends or family. Choose a cuisine, gather ingredients, and cook a delicious meal together. It’s a fun way to bond, learn new recipes, and enjoy a homemade feast.
Volunteer in Your Community: Giving back doesn’t have to cost a thing. Volunteer your time and skills to local organizations or community projects. Whether it’s cleaning up a park, assisting at a food pantry, or mentoring youth, volunteering enriches both your life and the lives of others.
Plan a Game Night: Dust off your board games or card decks and host a game night with friends or family. Games encourage laughter, friendly competition, and bonding – all without spending a fortune.
Enjoy Free Educational Resources: Explore free online courses, webinars, or workshops on topics that interest you. Platforms like Coursera, Khan Academy, and TED Talks offer a wealth of knowledge at your fingertips.

Benefits of Frugal Fun:

Financial Freedom: By embracing frugal fun, you can allocate your resources towards savings, investments, or other financial goals.
Creativity and Resourcefulness: Finding joy in simple pleasures cultivates creativity and encourages you to think outside the box.
Quality Time: Frugal fun emphasizes experiences and relationships, fostering meaningful connections with loved ones.

Final Thoughts:

As we navigate life’s journey, let’s remember that happiness and fulfillment don’t have to come with a price tag. Embracing frugal fun allows us to appreciate the richness of life’s moments, cherish the company of loved ones, and explore the beauty of the world around us – all while staying true to our financial values. So, whether you’re enjoying a picnic in the park, hosting a movie night at home, or volunteering in your community, savor each experience and treasure the memories created along the way. Here’s to living life to the fullest, one frugal adventure at a time!

On Fridays we will discuss being frugal – covering anything from saving money on fun, books about frugality, budget recipes, podcasts about budgeting and frugality, personal budget and frugality stories, and much more. I hope you will join me.

Thirsty Thursday – How to quench your thirst without increasing your girth

Quench Your Thirst with Refreshing and Healthy Drink Recipes

As temperatures rise and the sun shines brightly, there’s nothing quite like sipping on a cool, refreshing drink to hydrate and invigorate your body. While sugary sodas and artificial beverages might tempt us, why not opt for delicious and nutritious options instead? Join me as we explore some thirst-quenching, healthy drink recipes that will keep you feeling revitalized all summer long.

1. Watermelon Mint Cooler

Ingredients:

4 cups fresh watermelon, cubed and seeded
Juice of 1-2 limes
1 tablespoon fresh mint leaves, chopped
Ice cubes

Instructions:

Blend the watermelon cubes in a blender until smooth.
Pour the watermelon juice through a fine mesh strainer into a pitcher to remove any pulp.
Stir in the lime juice and chopped mint leaves.
Serve over ice and garnish with additional mint leaves if desired.

Benefits: Watermelon is hydrating and rich in vitamins A, C, and antioxidants. Mint adds a refreshing flavor while aiding digestion.

2. Cucumber Lemonade

Ingredients:

2 large cucumbers, peeled and chopped
Juice of 2-3 lemons
4 cups water
1-2 tablespoons honey or agave syrup (optional)
Ice cubes
Fresh mint leaves for garnish

Instructions:

Blend the chopped cucumbers with water until smooth.
Pour the cucumber mixture through a fine mesh strainer into a pitcher.
Add lemon juice and sweetener (if using), stirring until well combined.
Chill in the refrigerator or serve immediately over ice. Garnish with mint leaves.

Benefits: Cucumbers are hydrating and low in calories, while lemons provide vitamin C and aid digestion. This drink is a refreshing twist on traditional lemonade.

3. Berry Blast Smoothie

Ingredients:

1 cup mixed berries (strawberries, blueberries, raspberries)
1 ripe banana
1 cup plain Greek yogurt
1/2 cup almond milk (or any milk of your choice)
1 tablespoon honey or maple syrup (optional)
Ice cubes

Instructions:

Combine all ingredients in a blender.
Blend until smooth and creamy.
Taste and adjust sweetness if necessary by adding honey or maple syrup.
Pour into glasses and serve immediately.

Benefits: Berries are packed with antioxidants and vitamins, while Greek yogurt provides protein and probiotics for gut health. This smoothie is perfect for a quick and nutritious breakfast or snack.

4. Iced Green Tea with Citrus

Ingredients:

4 cups water
4 green tea bags
Juice of 1-2 oranges or lemons
Ice cubes
Fresh mint leaves for garnish (optional)

Instructions:

Bring water to a boil in a saucepan. Remove from heat and add green tea bags.
Steep for 3-5 minutes, then remove tea bags and let cool to room temperature.
Stir in citrus juice and chill in the refrigerator until cold.
Serve over ice cubes and garnish with mint leaves if desired.

Benefits: Green tea is rich in antioxidants and may promote heart health and improve brain function. Citrus fruits add vitamin C and refreshing flavor to this hydrating beverage.

5. Coconut Water Refresher

Ingredients:

1 cup coconut water
Juice of 1 lime
1/4 cup pineapple chunks (fresh or frozen)
1 tablespoon honey or agave syrup (optional)
Ice cubes

Instructions:

Combine coconut water, lime juice, pineapple chunks, and sweetener (if using) in a blender.
Blend until smooth and frothy.
Pour over ice cubes in a glass and serve immediately.

Benefits: Coconut water is naturally hydrating and contains electrolytes, while lime provides vitamin C and pineapple adds a tropical twist and additional vitamins.

Conclusion:

With these delicious and nutritious drink recipes, staying hydrated has never been more enjoyable! Whether you’re lounging by the pool, hosting a summer gathering, or simply looking for a healthier alternative, these thirst-quenching options are sure to please. Cheers to your health and hydration – may your summer be filled with refreshing sips and vibrant flavors!

Thursday’s posts will, of course, be about quenching our thirst. Discussions about hydration, foods that quench thirst, foods that negatively affect hydration, books, recipes, memes, and personal stories about keeping hydrated. I hope you will join me.

Wacky Wednesday – How to keep life from being boring

Embrace the Fun: Celebrating Wacky Wednesday!

Welcome to Wacky Wednesday – a day dedicated to breaking free from the ordinary and injecting a bit of whimsy into our lives! Whether you’re familiar with this quirky tradition or it’s your first encounter, Wacky Wednesday is all about embracing creativity, letting loose, and enjoying the lighter side of life. So, buckle up and join me on this delightful journey as we explore what makes Wacky Wednesday so special.

What is Wacky Wednesday?

Wacky Wednesday is a lighthearted observance where people intentionally do something out of the ordinary. It’s a day to unleash your inner child, embrace spontaneity, and revel in the joy of silliness. From wearing mismatched clothes to holding impromptu dance parties, the possibilities are endless when it comes to celebrating Wacky Wednesday.

Why Celebrate Wacky Wednesday?

In our fast-paced world, filled with deadlines, responsibilities, and stress, Wacky Wednesday offers a refreshing break. It encourages us to step away from the seriousness of everyday life and indulge in a bit of fun. By celebrating Wacky Wednesday, we cultivate a sense of playfulness, reduce stress levels, and foster stronger connections with those around us.

How to Celebrate Wacky Wednesday:

Dress Up: Forget about fashion norms! Mix and match your clothes in the most unconventional way possible. Stripes with polka dots? Why not!
Office Shenanigans: Spice up the workplace with harmless pranks or playful antics (with permission, of course). Decorate your coworker’s desk with balloons or organize a spontaneous karaoke session during lunch break.
Food Adventures: Experiment with bizarre food combinations or create your own wacky recipe. Ever tried a peanut butter and pickle sandwich? Now’s the time!
Get Crafty: Channel your inner artist and create wacky art or crafts. Use unconventional materials or explore abstract styles – let your imagination run wild!
Random Acts of Kindness: Spread joy by performing unexpected acts of kindness. Leave cheerful notes for strangers, surprise a friend with a quirky gift, or simply offer a warm smile to brighten someone’s day.

Benefits of Embracing Wackiness:

Boosts Creativity: Engaging in playful activities stimulates creativity and encourages innovative thinking.
Enhances Mood: Laughter and lightheartedness release endorphins, improving mood and reducing stress levels.
Strengthens Relationships: Shared experiences of fun and laughter create bonds and deepen connections with others.

Final Thoughts:

As we celebrate Wacky Wednesday, let’s embrace the joy of spontaneity and revel in the beauty of silliness. Whether you’re celebrating with friends, coworkers, or on your own, remember that a little dose of wackiness can go a long way in brightening your day and bringing a smile to those around you. So, let your creativity soar, unleash your inner goofball, and make every Wacky Wednesday a memorable adventure!

Here’s to celebrating the unconventional, embracing the unexpected, and cherishing the moments of pure joy that Wacky Wednesday brings into our lives. Let the wackiness begin!

Wednesday posts will cover everything wacky – movies, books, music, podcasts, memes, and personal Wacky Wednesday stories. I hope you will join me.

July 10, 2023 – Small things

Whenever I am down or having a rough day, I try to use one of the skills I learned in therapy.

Today was a rough day but I was prepared. I purchased some pretty little cards that say “ You Rock. Thanks for making a difference “ and “You’re awesome. What you do is amazing”. The plan was to leave them anonymously to cheer people up.

Today, while walking and thinking what a rough day I was having, I spotted a woman at a desk, all alone and I just felt that I needed to give her one of the cards, since I had two in my pocket.

I walked over to her and said I was walking by and felt the need to stop and give her this … the You are Awesome card. The look on her face was something I had never seen before. She said “You have no idea how much I needed this. You see, I was just diagnosed with cancer and just started chemo.” The compulsion to walk over to her was so strong I couldn’t ignore it. We introduced ourselves. Turned out she remembered me from when I worked at the library. I told her I would pray for her and check in with her occasionally.

Something I was doing to combat my own depression turned into something so meaningful to me.

Next time you have the urge to do or say something nice to a stranger, do it. You don’t know what the people around you are going through. Be kind. Always.

May 3, 2023 – Remembering my Mom.

Today is my Mom’s birthday. She passed away two years ago on April 29, 2021.

Last year was her death day and birthday were hard for me. Lots of sadness and crying. This year I decided to celebrate my Mom and remember all of the good things.

On Saturday, April 29, 2023, two years after her death, I wanted to honor her creativity by trying to teach finger crocheting at our local library. Mom loved to knit. I still have the yellow and brown blanket she knit for me when I was a baby. Over the years, I have darned holes in the blanket but it is still in great condition. I will keep it forever.

Mom also created beautiful counted cross stitch pictures. She once cross stitched a hummingbird on what looks like nylon mesh to me. Isn’t it beautiful?

For Mom’s birthday, I had planned on having one of the meals I remember having a lot when we were kids. TUNA RABBITS. What is a tuna rabbit? You take tuna salad and put in on a plate. That is the rabbits head. Place a good scoop of macaroni and cheese and put it on the plate next to the tuna salad. That is the rabbit’s body. Dill pickle spears make the ears and olives make the eyes. I loved having tuna rabbits. I will make some this weekend.

Tonight, when I go to bed, I am going to read The Pokey Little Puppy. This is the story Mom used to read to me and my three brothers all the time. I have my well loved copy of this Little Golden Book and I think it is going to be a new tradition.

My Mom was kind, gentle, and could bake a chocolate chip cookie that you will remember forever. I miss her but, this year I mostly want to remember all the good times we had as a family.

Me and Mom at Ameriflora Festival in Columbus, OH – 1992

Thanks for all the good memories, Mom.

Thanks to my Dad too.

Thanks to my brothers.

Thanks to my extended family as well.

Thanks for reading.

April 10, 2023 – Back to nature

This past Saturday, Mike and I visited The Celery Fields in Sarasota, FL. It is a very interesting nature park that used to be used to grow celery and other vegetables back in the early 1900s. It is currently used for flood water mitigation. Of course, all that water and swampy land make a great wildlife habitat.

The Nature Center itself is at the bottom of a big hill. The day we were visiting, there were a bunch of people running the hill, both straight up and up the curved path. Mike went up while I spent time in the nature gazebo.

View of the gazebo by the bird feeders from the top of the hill

Sitting in the gazebo watching the birds on the feeders was so fun. We, unfortunately, had missed the Painted Buntings and Indigo Buntings by 5 minutes! However we did get to see Nanday Parakeets up close.

There were grackles, common ground doves, catbirds, and red-winged blackbirds. Bluebirds were seen but I did not get a good picture of one.

Across the street from the nature center as well as down their road from the nature center, are boardwalks. You can walk out and see the different species of water fowl, egrets, sandpipers and such.